FIRST DATE SEX: It’s no revelation to say that, generally speaking, men like to have sex on a first date – but there’s a growing number of women who like to jump into bed as soon as they can too.
A XXX Sex Contacts poll we conducted in February this year, revealed that 16 percent of 20 to 27-year-old women would willingly engage in sex on their first date – that’s more than any other age group.
Also, one in 15 women said they would sleep with someone the first time they met, compared to one in four blokes who would do the same.
However, the number of women who have sex on their first date is set to grow significantly as more of them realise just how empowering and liberated it makes them feel.
One 25-year-old told us: “It makes the date more exciting if you don’t set those ridiculous ‘I don’t sleep with guys on the first date’ rules.”
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PARALEGAL Courtney decided to hit the dating scene following the breakdown of her marriage.
Most of her dates ended with sex – even if she didn’t see a future with the man.
Courtney, from Luton, Bedfordshire, says:
“When I was single, my dates would almost always end up with sex. Throughout a 16-month period, I slept with something like 12 different men.
“I typically like to have sex early on after meeting a guy because sex is a very essential part of a relationship for me.
“If the sex isn’t good then I’m not interested.”
“If I was attracted to a man I would always want to sleep with him so I would find out if there could be a reason for a second date.
“I would be extremely candid, if I didn’t find my date that attractive or if I felt like we weren’t connecting on a mental level, I’d simply tell him I didn’t see a relationship developing, but I would always make it very clear that I was up for having sex that evening if that’s what he wanted too.”
“It’s important, to be honest about these things as you don’t want to end up in a situation where one person likes the other more.
“I always make it clear if I’m looking to have sex with them for that night only, or if I am looking for something more.”
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SINGLE beauty Verity from Southall, London, says having sex on a first date is usual because she ‘likes to try before she buys’.
Verity, who is an ICU nurse in London, says:
“I imagine just as many women have sex on a first date as men, we just don’t talk about it. We’re too concerned about what other people will think.
“When a man gets a woman into bed on a first date they’re labelled a hero. If a woman does it, they get a bad name for themselves. Having sex on a first date is like trying before you buy. I don’t see any point waiting months to have sex, particularly at my age.
“I need to know early on if I’m sexually compatible with someone or the relationship won’t work. I don’t want to waste time waiting to find out.
“I met an ex-partner online and we had sex on our first date.
“It was amazing. As he drove me home I knew we’d sleep together. As soon as we walked through the door we had sex. Our relationship lasted 18 months and having a great sex life held us together.
“When we broke-up I met men on Tinder and PoF.
“I got chatting to a man on Tinder and we met up at a hotel and fell into bed as soon as we got there.
“It was truly exhilarating, but when I suggested going out for a few drinks later, he decided that he just wanted to spend the night in the room.
“Then we had a disagreement so I left early the next morning.
“Next time I will make sure I’m at least treated to a meal and a drink before we sleep together.”
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PALS tell off Julie from Litchfield, Staffordshire, when she sleeps with guys on the first date.
But she thinks they are out of touch and that women should call the shots.
Julie, who is a full-time law student, says:
“I’ve been on several first dates in the past year where it’s turned into sex at the end of the evening.
“When I tell my friends they always quote the three-date rule, which says a woman must wait until she has had a third date with a guy before having sex with him, but I don’t agree in waiting.
“I think you should do whatever you feel comfortable with.
“Some guys assume sex will happen on a first date and other’s don’t, so it can be really empowering to say, ‘I don’t care about the rules, I want to sleep with you because I want to know if you can satisfy my needs.’
“I think it’s better to get straight to the point, and I’m like that with initial chatting, too.
“When I meet someone online I will always ask them to meet up straight away.
“I don’t see the point in dragging it out, because you’ll only know if there’s a connection once you meet in person.
“I’ll only sleep with someone if I like them and I can see things going further.
“I think it’s a normal part of dating, but if I’m not into them then I’ll make a polite excuse and go home alone.
“I’ve had to give a few guys the brush-off after sleeping with them as the spark just wasn’t there.
“I’m quite a sexual person so that’s important to me. It’s better to find out sooner rather than later.
“My friends ‘don’t get it’ if I sleep with a guy on our first date because they’re all in long-term relationships. I guess they see things differently.
“They don’t understand what dating these days is like.”
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MUM of one Donna from Hartlepool, Northeast, says the best sex is after a first date.
She also uses it as an opportunity to check out their home. Office manager Donna says:
“I am seeing somebody at the moment but still dating other men because it’s important to keep your options open.
“It makes the date more electrifying if you don’t set those stupid ‘I don’t sleep with guys on the first date’ rules.
“The best sex I’ve ever had is when it’s spontaneous after a first date. It adds a bit of adventure.”
“But I expect guys to make the first move and I never take a guy home with me. I like to check-out his domestic state of affairs.
“It gives a good insight into who they are ahead of committing to another date.
“If he’s messy, lives with his parents, has weird hobbies or a really plush house, it’s nice to know early on.
“I sleep with about 50 percent of my dates and half of those I will see again if he wants to.
“I don’t want to waste three more dates on somebody then sleep with them and find there’s no sexual spark.
“It’s better to figure out if you’re better off as friends at the start.
“I’ve had a few long-term relationships in the past and I’m always looking for love.
“I slept with a previous partner on our first date and we were together for a few years, so that shows it can lead to love.”
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