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8 very compelling reasons for mutual masturbation<\/a> – non-penetrative sex<\/p>\n

MUTUAL MASTURBATION: I am a massive masturbator. I\u2019ve spent literally hours doing it. Depending upon what assumption you believe about the exact chemical composition of the fluids some women create when they \u2018squirt\u2019, you might say that I have literally pissed entire afternoons up the wall, just frigging myself off.<\/p>\n

When I initially purchased my much-loved Doxy, mains-powered wand vibrator, which according to the promo material oozes 30% more power than the Hitachi wand, and sounds akin to a starving hippo, I ended up with a severely bruised erogenous zone.<\/p>\n

It is so good, that while visiting South East Asia with a bunch of girlfriends, I pretended to have food poisoning just so I could spend an uninterrupted half-hour self-pleasuring; Thai toilets frequently have a jet-spray shower attachment that\u2019s designed to help you keep your private-parts clean, and let me tell you that it feels amazing directed at your pussy. Seriously, they should have those in every loo.<\/p>\n

Mutual Masturbation<\/a><\/p>\n

Yet of all my side-splitting, pleasure-seeking, masturbation stories, those that people are most shocked by are those that involve mutual masturbation: that\u2019s touching yourself as a lover watches, and maybe touches themselves too. You may fondle and stroke each other as well, but the name of the game is to get yourself off.<\/p>\n

Why would you want to masturbate when your partner is there and could give you a good seeing too?  Why would you bother when you\u2019re together and could just have real sex, or get him to go down on you?<\/p>\n

If you think like that, then you\u2019re not alone: a survey of over 1,800 UK adults revealed while 51% of people who are currently in committed relationships say they have masturbated while their partner was there, the other half never have. If you\u2019re in that latter group, here are 8 awe-inspiring reasons to give mutual masturbation a twirl.<\/p>\n

Solo masturbating is a great way to get a sexual thrill while keeping things less intense than full-blown intercourse \u2013 and is great if you\u2019re feeling knackered<\/h3>\n

The thought of vigorous penetrative humping and pumping can seem off-puttingly gruelling if you\u2019ve had a day that\u2019s seemed to go on longer and suck harder than an everlasting gobstopper. However engaging in some lazy-lust with your partner gently stroking your nether region is a low-effort, quick-payoff way to enjoy stress-free pleasure and savour an intimate moment when you\u2019re feeling completely wiped out. The next time you\u2019re feeling totally shattered or need to unload some sex-juice after a stressful day at work, simply \u2018get close\u2019 and masturbate together in an unhurried, laid-back way.  You will find it a surprisingly therapeutic way to relax.<\/p>\n

My OH and I both work long shifts in a hospital, so mutual masturbation allows us to just please ourselves when we\u2019re feeling too washed out to be truly attentive lovers to each other, but it\u2019s still a connected experience that strengthens our relationship.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s one of the best forms of sex education there is<\/strong><\/p>\n

You know your own private parts like the back of your hand (hopefully \u2013 if you don\u2019t, get to know them now!), and you know precisely what to do with your hands to make them feel wonderful. There is no-one better qualified than you to show your lover how you like to be touched. And vice versa: your partner is the expert wrangler of their pussy or penis, and the ideal person to demonstrate how it\u2019s done. A mutual masturbation session is a perfect tutorial for you both. Even if you\u2019ve been together a long time, things like what contraception you\u2019re using, medications, age, and pregnancy can alter how your body responds to differing stimulation, so it\u2019s a good idea to check with each other just to see what, if anything, may have changed.<\/p>\n

As I\u2019ve enthused on XXX Sex Contacts before, confident types can use the \u2018Show \u2018n\u2019 Tell\u2019 method: command your partner to lie on the bed or sit on a chair and pay close attention while you please yourself. If dirty talk floats your boats, you can describe what you\u2019re doing, or ask your partner to describe what they\u2019re viewing. Vocalising exactly what\u2019s happening sounds super-sexy, whilst also deepening your partner\u2019s precise understanding of your tastes.<\/p>\n

If you\u2019re shyer, try the \u2018Hide \u2018n\u2019 Peek\u2019 technique: ask your partner to leave you alone in the bedroom or bathroom while you put on sultry music, light candles, step into a warm shower, or do whatever else helps you get in the mood, before you start pleasuring yourself. After 10 minutes, they can come back and \u2018spy\u2019 on you by opening the door a little; the sense of voyeurism can be thrilling for them, and you might find it easier to lose your inhibitions if you have the room to yourself, rather than having your partner inches away from your genitals and examining your bits more closely than a rare clock on the Antiques Roadshow. Wearing a blindfold can be intensely exciting, too.<\/p>\n

Masturbation is safer than penetrative sex in terms of risk and contracting STDs, obviously<\/h3>\n

When it comes to sexually transmitted infections (diseases) mutual masturbation is way less perilous than any kind of penetrative sex.<\/p>\n

That said, there\u2019s still a chance of transmitting skin-to-skin STIs, such as herpes, and it\u2019s possible to catch other infections if fluids are transferred on hands or sex toys. Think about covering dildos with condoms if you\u2019re going to share them, use a fresh condom each time you pass the toy between you \u2013 I recommend the new ONE range, which includes johnnies embossed with stimulating tattoo designs.<\/p>\n

Know your status and that of your partner, so you can make informed adult decisions about what sort of sex you are comfortable with, and what precautions to take \u2013 there are tonnes of ways to get tested, in clinics and at home.<\/p>\n

Mutual masturbation works a treat for virtual relationships and if your partner is at a distance<\/h3>\n

According to a recent poll, just over 1 in 10 people have masturbated with their partner (or a consenting adult stranger) over the phone or via text. It\u2019s a brilliant way of keeping the excitement alive while you\u2019re apart (and is even more exhilarating than stealing mini shampoos from Premier Inn\u2019s housekeeping trolley).<\/p>\n

Try enhancing the excitement by introducing some role play: one of you can be the \u2018film director\u2019, whilst the other is the porn star who has to follow instructions on how to touch themselves.  Intensely sexy.<\/p>\n

You can show your lover how you use your toys\u2026<\/strong><\/p>\n

BTW, if you want to introduce a particularly powerful or loud toy, but suspect that your sex partner might be intimidated or put off by how much noise it makes, try giving it a debut on your smartphone but mute the speaker. After they\u2019ve witnessed its potential to turn your knees to jelly (in an orgasmic way), they may well be less bothered about how audible the buzz is in real life.<\/p>\n

Mutual masturbation is also the perfect moment to subtly show that you like to rest your bullet vibrator at a certain spot on your clitoris and keep it there, so it gives sustained stimulation that has a chance to build up \u2013 and that you don\u2019t like to twirl it around your clit like a majorette\u2019s baton, like a certain somebody did the last time you brought your sex toys into the bedroom. Cough.<\/p>\n

Introduce sex toys to your fella<\/h3>\n

Although 3 in 4 heterosexual men have used a sex toy to pleasure their female partner, only 22% of women have used a gadget on their guy, according to a recent sex toy survey. Women are also more often the owners of sex toys, with nearly one in three saying they own at least one (31%), compared to just over one in ten men having their own sexual pleasure product (13%).<\/p>\n

A mutual masturbation session is the ideal setting to level up those lopsided stats and persuade your bloke to discover different ways to stroke your pussy.<\/p>\n

For instance, I bought my husband a Flip Hole textured silicone sleeve that you add lube too, then slide your penis into and essentially fuck. It has patterns and ridges inside that feel amazing (apparently), and it has a vacuum pump so he can alter how tightly it squeezes around his cock. He said it felt like a next-level blowjob. It\u2019s usually women who use toys, and men who watch; it was a fresh, empowering thrill to turn the tables and be the voyeur while he played with something X-rated. Plus, because it was a new experience for both of us, it gave us an excuse to talk intimately about new sensations \u2013 the conversation was new, as well as the action.<\/p>\n

If one of you is feeling hornier than the other, you can try \u2018The Purple Pass\u2019<\/strong><\/p>\n

In his hit Alphabet Street, miniature frill-sleeved sex goblin Prince croons – tonight I\u2019m just not in the mood, so if you don\u2019t mind, I would rather watch.<\/p>\n

\u2018The Purple Pass\u2019 means giving your partner express permission to masturbate, while you look on approvingly. You might encourage them by telling them how hot they look; you might allow them to cum on your skin; you might read aloud from a book of erotic stories to stoke their balls. But they get off, and you take part, without doing anything physical that you don\u2019t feel up to, to them or yourself. It\u2019s a decent compromise if you\u2019re going through a period where your libidos are mismatched.<\/p>\n

Mutual masturbation can be incredibly kinky<\/h3>\n

Masturbating when someone is present can essentially feel more intimate than having sexual intercourse. It can feel ultra-vulnerable being watched rather than moving closer together, and it\u2019s hugely revealing to honestly show your lover something you\u2019d usually do in private, and that is often stigmatised. That can make it intimidating, but it also means that mutual masturbation can build trust and feel incredibly connected.<\/p>\n

Gaze into your partner\u2019s eyes as you stroke yourselves with arms and legs intertwined, or spend a little time simply massaging each other with some lube before allowing your moist fingers to slide over your vaginal lips or his penis and balls.<\/p>\n

Fancy something somewhat racier? Tie your partner\u2019s hands so they can\u2019t touch themselves while you masturbate in front of them. Or lie exposed, back to back, and masturbate: this can make you feel more secure (perhaps turning around as you both approach climaxes), but the telling shudders and shakes of your bodies against each other can be insanely sexy.<\/p>\n

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