Escorts, Clients, and the Sex Industry: all the questions you wanted to ask but \r\nnever did.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n
The phrase ‘exotic’, in an escorting context, means being ‘different’ from your \r\nrun of the mill escort. Exotic escorts differentiate themselves by their cultural \r\nroots; ideological outlook and upbringing. However, using the word exotic to describe \r\nan escort today usually means that she will be oriental.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n
Many escorts use the term ‘exotic’ to portray themselves as having a different \r\nkind of ‘beauty’ or appearance and to ‘stand-out’ from the majority. An example \r\nwhere exotic might be used is in the case of an Asian escort working in the UK, \r\nwhere escorts are mainly white girls. Asian escort girls will often describe themselves \r\nas ‘exotic,’ because their features differ from the majority of white UK escorts.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n
It really depends on her, as an individual and her own situation. A lot of women \r\nhold back (or are oblivious to) their own sexual desires, so achieving an orgasm \r\nmay be tricky and not happen that often in their lives. Contemporary gender roles \r\nare a key reason in the inhibition of female sexuality, as female satisfaction has \r\nusually been dismissed as immaterial in fashionable Western dialogue. Conversations \r\nthat marginalised female sexuality stem from Victorian-era morals. Of course, things \r\nhave altered, as the awareness of female sexual yearning is being rejuvenated back \r\ninto our way of life. However, wholesome female sexuality is still fairly rare. \r\nYes, it appears that women are more sexually ‘open’ compared to the past. But in \r\nreality, most women have merely become more sexually objectified. Acting ‘sexy’ \r\ngives the fantasy that women are more sexually tuned with themselves \u2014 but it is \r\na daydream for most, as most are not within longing for sex. Moreover, a wholesomely, \r\nsexually tuned woman would not inevitably need to show it by objectifying or debasing \r\nherself.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n
Some escorts are the odd ones out in that the more sex they have, the more aroused \r\nthey become. However, even in escorting circles that can be remarkably rare \u2014 most \r\nescorts are like most other women in terms of sexual craving. For some escorts, \r\nhaving sex with punters can enhance their personal sex life. I may or may not get \r\naroused by clients, but it definitely builds up my expectation when it comes to \r\nmy personal lovers. Having middle-of-the-road sex with clients can at times make \r\nescort girls crave good intimacy with someone they desire outside of what amounts \r\nto a ‘business’ transaction with a punter. Likewise, having good sex with clients \r\ncan create an intense arousal to be with their personal lover. It is not uncommon \r\nfor an escort to get really aroused and want to be with their ‘real life’ lover \r\nstraight after another man has just slept with them.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n
Old, middle-aged, or young\u2026 it doesn’t really matter to most sex workers what \r\nage a client is as long as they are of a legal age to consent to the sex of course. \r\nAge does not label how a client will act, so such things are quite immaterial. \r\nThat said, some female escorts prefer older clients because they believe that older \r\nclients are easier to please. This belief could be because older men tend to be \r\nmore patient and relaxed in their sexuality, whereas young men tend to be more eager \r\n(although I am generalising here). However, characteristics of all sorts can be \r\nfound in punters of any age, class or ethnic background. To standardise or normalise \r\nwould be a mistake \u2013 but to generalise is acceptable, but only just!<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n
This question makes me laugh. No! I’d say the bulk of escorts would laugh if \r\na man believed his ‘good looks’ would get him a better deal. Most escorts do not \r\ncare about looks. A skilled courtesan knows very well that ‘good looks’ have no \r\nbearing on their livelihoods. A handsome client does not guarantee that he will \r\nbe a good sexual lover, a good person or at best, generous. Virtues that most escorts \r\nvalue in punters is kindness, consideration, respect, cleanliness, humour, and unselfishness \r\nin sex (non-demanding) \u2013 such things cannot be compensated by exterior aesthetics \r\nalone.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n
This question reminds me of a client who tried to book a particular escort. The \r\nstory goes something like this. He made contact and made numerous efforts to tell \r\nher how ‘handsome’ he was, and how ‘well-endowed’ his penis was. The escort rolled \r\nher eyes and thought to herself, ‘You are probably rubbish at sex because you are \r\ntrying to convince me of how marvellous you are.’ Needless to say, she blow him \r\nout.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n
Footnote: Ladies be wary: Any man who boasts about his achievements or claims \r\nto be ‘great in bed’ is to be avoided. Men with big egos are more often than not \r\nmasking HUGE insecurities and shortcomings. Fortunately, after years of encountering \r\nso many different men, I know very well that: If it seems too good to be true, it \r\nis! Any man who proposes a ‘larger than life’ offer always has a dirty motive behind \r\nit, so please be on your guard of such things.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n
Do nothing. He’s a client. Expect it. Sadly, in the context of contemporary prostitution, \r\nit is more than okay for a client to have no responsibility towards an escort. Even \r\nif he has seen her lots times, it is at best a flimsy relationship of little meaning. \r\nOf course, not all clients have this ‘neglecting’ intent with escorts. There are \r\nclients who stay loyal to one woman. Respectable clients will identify with an escorts \r\nlife and feelings \u2014 they don’t just see her as an object for their personal pleasure.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n
Thankfully, most escorts will have a decent number of regular clients they can \r\nrely on and may even have known some for a number of years. But, no man is bound \r\nto be loyal to an escort. Many clients are married. Escorts will only see clients \r\nwhen they are requested, and will not intrude in a client’s personal life… nor \r\nshould a client seek to interfere in an escort’s private life either. Whether or \r\nnot an escort’s regular clients see other girls is none of her business. I professional \r\nescort should have no expectation of a client beyond that of the service he has \r\npaid for \u2013 it is fundamentally a business transaction and nothing more.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n
In reality, some escorts get angry when their regular client starts seeing another \r\ngirl. Instead of blaming the client, they often blame the other escort for ‘stealing’ \r\nhim. But blaming other escorts is hardly legitimate. Blaming the client is also \r\nunacceptable. It is simply part of the escorting world. Relationships are very fluid, \r\nso should never be taken too seriously.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n
Sometimes an escort may be too busy in her personal life to accommodate a regular \r\nclient. This may lead to the client choosing to visit another girl. If you are an \r\nescort reading this, if you hold with the notion of ‘hoarding’ clients then you \r\nare setting yourself up for a huge disappointment. Being open with clients will \r\noften lead to even greater client loyalty!<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n
From chats I’ve had with escorts, most complain when a client is too big, or \r\ntoo much work (meaning too challenging as it can take too long to cum). For example, \r\nif a clients’ size is too big and the intercourse is expected to be painful, then \r\nthe escort might refuse to have sex with him. If a punter is fairly large, most \r\nescorts hope the sex will be over quickly. Some escorts with very big egos will \r\nsay things like, \u201cI’m not going to risk hurting my pussy with one client because \r\nit’s not worth it.\u201d One particular escort told me \u201cI have declined to have sex with \r\nclients who have a massive cock because I didn’t feel the likely pain was ‘worth’ \r\nmy time.\u201d<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n
Perhaps surprisingly, men who are very well endowed are not at all common. Most \r\nclients are average in genital size. Some escorts will develop a penchant for men \r\nwith a small\/smaller dick because the assumption is that it will have less impact \r\non her body. Most prefer average or smaller dicks with clients because logically \r\nit’s easier on their body. However, the preference for their own pleasure is another \r\nstory. This is probably because the men they enjoy are average or slightly bigger \r\nthan average \u2014 but not too big. However, ‘size’ factors are only one part of the \r\ngreat pleasure escorts experience and it should be noted that ‘small’ men also give \r\ngreat pleasure. One escort told me \u201cIf I happen to be aroused on a particular day, \r\nI must confess that I prefer a ‘slightly bigger than average’ size over a small \r\nprick. I can remember a few weeks ago I was so aroused one day, and I was meeting \r\na new client. I was very full of craving and was hoping that he would be ‘big,’ \r\nbut to my disappointment, his penis was quite small.\u201d<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n
However, all escorts will agree that a man’s penis size does not guarantee pleasure. \r\nA lot of men are apprehensive about their penis size, but cock size is less important \r\nto giving sexual satisfaction to a woman. The experience of an escort is not just \r\nabout the physical aspects but also mental stimulation and geometric fit too. Great \r\nenjoyment is never simply the mind or body; it is the blend of both. To demonstrate \r\nthis in another way: a stunning woman may attract someone, but her body alone is \r\nnot enough to draw authentic and deep desire from another person. Good looks may \r\nattract men, but when people fall in love they fall in love with other essentials \r\nthat are not just physical. Physical attraction, alone, is a very limited and unfulfilling \r\nway of experiencing true bliss.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n
No, why would it be bad? It is only ‘frowned upon’ because contemporary society \r\nhas a distorted and very unfair stance when it comes to prostitutes. An escort is \r\nno different than any other human being. Yes, her lifestyle is different, but she \r\nis worthy of love, acknowledgment and care just as anyone else. Unfortunately, there \r\nare still some that hold views that unorthodox groups are undeserving of basic human \r\ndignity. Such an unkind view needs to be challenged.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n
This question makes the assumption that human emotions can be standardized and \r\ngeneralized like a lifeless product.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n
I cannot speak on behalf of all escorts, because human beings have a diverse \r\nspan of emotions, experiences and life circumstances which all form their unique \r\nway of viewing life (and viewing others). If an escort loves having sex, it does \r\nnot automatically follow that she will enjoy having sex with just anyone… of course \r\nnot.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n
As I have stressed before: things such as chemistry are not ‘learned’ behaviours \r\n\u2013 no amount of phony efforts can generate good chemistry. Two people desiring each \r\nother remain as unexplained today as it has in the past \u2013 having good chemistry \r\nis an occurrence simply happens or doesn’t as the case may be.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n
A question each escort needs to ask themselves is: what constitutes being \u201cnormal?\u201d \r\nIs it complying with social norms? Is it acting just like everyone else? Many modern \r\nnorms that persist today exist to benefit a system of complete inequality, rather \r\nthan supporting a fair social environment that accommodates everyone. Is there any \r\npoint in striving for a ‘normal’ life, when an escort’s life is anything but ‘normal’ \r\nas defined by contemporary society?<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n
An escort’s view [anonymous]:<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n
\u201cI make a great effort to conform in public. The way I dress, act and appear \r\n\tis very much meeting the requirements (normal) from a public viewpoint. The \r\n\tpoint of conforming is to steer clear of rejection; I once desperately wanted \r\n\tto belong and be accepted by others. But in the process of appearing normal \r\n\tI was really rejecting myself. It also became very arduous trying to play different \r\n\troles in different settings, so often I just isolated myself as it was the only \r\n\tplace I could stop pretending to be someone I was not.<\/p>
\u201cFor a long time after starting out a professional escort, I struggled with \r\n\tmy identity. I didn’t know who I was, and I focused more on what I was expected \r\n\tto be. I was performing several different roles, catering to the needs of everyone \r\n\telse. I was an escort, but I had to hide that part of my life. How could I appear, \r\n\twork and mix with the mainstream when my experiences, tastes and work were so \r\n\tdifferent? How could I relate to average women who would almost certainly avoid \r\n\tme if they knew my secret lifestyle? This is when I realized that society has \r\n\tmade no place for stigmatized persons; for years it was emotionally draining \r\n\tfeeling I must hide myself all the time.<\/p>
\u201cEscorts become conscious of their rejection by mainstream society early \r\n\ton, so they find social support among other sex workers. But I couldn’t do this. \r\n\tI felt alienated even among most other escorts \u2014 sadly, I felt there was no \r\n\tsense of unity among escorts in such an Individualistic environment. Escorts \r\n\tcan be influenced by role expectations (paradoxically) and will often judge \r\n\teach other. I found that escorts usually bond together in their despair. Rather \r\n\tthan deal with their pain together, they resort to ‘numbing’ their pain together \r\n\tby way of partying, drinking, excessive materialism and even drug use. Misery \r\n\tLoves Company is an ideal saying for when escort unity does exist. It isn’t \r\n\tonly stigmatised persons, but also a lot of seemingly normal people tend to \r\n\t‘party’ away their misery, because they themselves get tired of trying to live \r\n\tup to an unrealistic ideal placed upon their gender. Social pressures surely \r\n\tcan explain why the ‘drinking and party’ culture is so prevalent in Western \r\n\tsocieties, because drinking allows people to feel artificially comfortable, \r\n\tat least for a short while. Personally, I did my best to stay away from fake \r\n\tsituations. For me, the only place where I could reveal myself is when I was \r\n\talone. My other outlet was when I fell in love.<\/p>
\u201cEarly on, I wanted the ‘normal’ life and outlook for a woman: to fall in \r\n\tlove, to get married and to have a family. I imagined that I could effortlessly \r\n\tchange into a ‘normal’ life once getting married and settling down. And I almost \r\n\tdid it. I stopped working for a long period when I was with my ex-fianc\u00e9. My \r\n\tlife as a sex worker stopped me from being accepted by others and so I had to \r\n\t‘hide’ myself. My ex-fianc\u00e9 accepted me and never judged me for selling my body, \r\n\tbut the struggle remained within me. When I started escorting I was in denial \r\n\tof the fact that I wasn’t anything like ‘normal’ girls. I sold my body, but \r\n\tI felt I was better than most escorts because my outside lifestyle and mannerisms \r\n\twere somewhat normal. But I became to accept that I was now a woman with a completely \r\n\tdifferent outlook compared to the average girl. I saw sides of men and their \r\n\tsexuality that most women never see. My experiences made my life anything but \r\n\tnormal.<\/p><\/blockquote>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n
Can an escort ever live a normal life?<\/strong><\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n
\u201cOf course, an escort can imagine her life is normal for outsiders, but inside \r\n\tshe will be hiding a lot of emotions. A person can only hide themselves for \r\n\tso long. Sadly, I do not have a sound answer to this question, as there aren’t \r\n\tany real alternatives for sex workers in a modern society. However, I personally \r\n\tfound comfort once I started expanding my awareness. From a very young age, \r\n\tI have always been fascinated with education.<\/p>
One cannot only learn from books, one must also learn from experience too. \r\n\tI was moved to go to University to appease my inquisitiveness about human life, \r\n\tculture, humanity, political affairs, and so forth. University exposed me to \r\n\tscholars who logically critique all aspects of social phenomena.<\/p>
I was introduced to the notion of ‘narratives’ and ‘discourses’ (stereotypes), \r\n\twhich made me realise that many widely-held beliefs in society were constructed \r\n\tby particular people to serve a particular agenda. Moreover, norms that exist \r\n\ttoday are never fixed, and norms differ both historically and culturally.<\/p>
More or less straight away I realised there was nothing to be ashamed of \r\n\tabout choosing to be an escort, and that other cultures historically, once held \r\n\t‘alternative’ lifestyles and sexual practices in high appreciation. It became \r\n\tfairly comforting when I started to appreciate that many intellectual people \r\n\t(in post-modern Social Sciences) are aware how norms are constructed in relation \r\n\tto power, therefore subject to consternation, change and variation.<\/p>
There are, of course, lots of decent people who confront the unfair thinking \r\n\tof society and are open and receptive to ‘alternative’ lifestyles. There are \r\n\tnumerous films about sex workers that show the emotional conflict many escorts \r\n\tface: when a prostitute discovers her place in society is not welcome and her \r\n\tbehaviour is despicable and condemned by people who can’t or won’t accept that \r\n\ta professional escort fulfils an important social need.<\/p><\/blockquote>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n
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