10 Things Women Don’t Know About Men and Sex

Sex tips for women

Sex tips for women

Women are pretty perceptive when it comes to finding out how men think and act but they can still be rather naive about certain things. In truth, women know most of these things, but they tend to close the eyes to them and secretly hope they aren’t true. Well, guess what? Hoping something isn’t true doesn’t make it so. With that said, are you prepared for a serious dose of reality?

1. Men don’t just fancy sex, they NEED sex (sex tips for women).
Sex is as imperative to a man as food and sleep are. When you refuse a man sex to get back at him or to teach him a lesson, you risk doing more damage than good and he will ultimately look for it somewhere else, often with somebody, he subconsciously knows will be particularly upsetting should you find out.

2. After sex, a physiological reaction causes men to become emotionally and psychologically detached from their partner.
It’s also the reason men get tired, fall asleep, and don’t want to cuddle immediately following sex. Don’t take it personally. It’s just a chemical reaction and is not linked to his attraction to you.

3. Men imagine having sex with every woman they see (sex tips for women).
When a man meets, sees, or even thinks about a woman, he will think about what sex would be like with her. The more beautiful the woman, the longer and more vivid the fantasy will be. A man will do this upon seeing every woman, from a total stranger to a work colleague or a neighbour, and while his thoughts of a sexual encounter may be momentary, he will still think it even if only for a moment, even if it’s subconsciously. Usually, these are idle thoughts which a man would never seriously consider following up on, nor would he ever confess to them, but rest assured he will have those thoughts.

4. The more you point out other good-looking women to your man, the more he will be attracted to you!
While this may seem counterintuitive, what women don’t appreciate is that two things happen when they point out other beautiful women to their man: First, he will be reassured that he can be free to appreciate nice-looking women in your company, with your full knowledge and approval (although it may take a number of instances over time for him to come to this understanding). Second, he will entertain the thought that you might be attracted to those women yourself, and will imagine about having a threesome. As long as these fantasies remain a likelihood in his mind, he will be happy. If he brings up his fantasies about your appeal to other women and hints about making them a reality (such as in a three-way sex romp) you don’t need to feel forced into it; just tell him no, at the same time as hinting that it could be a possibility!

Don’t make the blunder of asking your man if he finds somebody gorgeous who it would be socially improper for him to be attracted to (e.g. his mum or your mum!), or somebody who would threaten your relationship (e.g. your sister).

5. When you ask a man what he is thinking, more often than not he will give you a fuzzy answer to hide the fact that he is thinking about sex.
A man thinks about sex more often than even HE realises. If he is forced to face up to or admit this, he will become evasive and will be inclined to shut down. If you feed him leading lines such as, “Babe, are you thinking about me again?” he will be delighted for the chance to give you the obvious positive answer. Only you have to know it’s a game.

6. To keep a man attracted to you, play hard-to-get (sex tips for women).
This may seem like basic relationship guidance but in truth, women get the wrong idea how to play hard-to-get. If a man asks you out and you attempt to avoid committing to a date, you will only frustrate him and cause him to guess why you’re avoiding him. Rather, you should play hard-to-get only while in his presence. This means accepting his sexual advances at a slower pace than he is expressing them (but never ignoring or rejecting them wholly), as well as making sexual advances towards him and then being slow to accept his reciprocation. In other words, lead him along at your pace, not his; your pace should be slower than the one he wants.

7. A woman’s clothes, hairstyle, perfume and makeup do little to draw a man.
Sure, those things can help make a woman more striking, but what men are actually attracted to is a woman’s personality. The more self-confident and modest a woman acts, the more attractive a man will find her. You could dress in a bin-bag and wear no makeup at all, but if you act like you enjoy keeping a secret, and don’t act too interested in him, he will find you irresistible.

8. All men are sheep.
They all ogle at good-looking women. They all imagine having sex with them. Even the “nice ones” do this. Once you appreciate that it isn’t a threat to your relationship, you will feel more relaxed.

9. Men don’t like it when a woman talks to them about any previous relationship (sex tips for women).
Men like to fantasise that they are the only man you have ever been with, even though they know it isn’t true. Men are threatened by any thought of your having had a relationship with another man. This extends all the way back to when you were at school. If you mention a previous crush to your current husband or boyfriend he will feel threatened even if it was a harmless crush that happened decades ago. While these are not logical thoughts, nevertheless it’s how many men think.

10. Sex is akin to a job that men enjoy and strive to succeed at.
While men get pleasure from sex, they also believe it is their duty to please a woman, and if they don’t succeed in doing so they consider it an unsuccessful encounter. That doesn’t mean your man feels he has to necessarily bring you to orgasm; if you’re not in the frame of mind, simply tell him so, but be ready to service him if you want to keep him happy.

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