Sex Guide
Sex guide: Sex is not about perfection it is about connection.
None of us are perfect and your partner does not expect you to be. What is important is that you come from a place of authentic thoughtfulness and that you are prepared to listen to her suggestions of how to best satisfy her. Every woman in fact every person on the planet is unique in what gets them turned on and what drives them wild. Some people are not even aware of what they need in order to enjoy a sexual encounter. In this situation it is hard for them to give instructions to a partner and a better idea is to explore different things together and see what you both enjoy.
Sex guide for dummies
When exploring be relaxed, there are no right or wrong ways to do things during a sexual encounter and the only reaction that matters is yours and that of your partner. It helps to talk and you could even say to your partner let me know if you are enjoying this or if you want me to do something else.
It is important that if you are with a new partner that you make it clear to her that it is totally OK for her to let you know if you are doing something she doesn’t like or something that hurts and that you will not be offended if set speaks up.
[ sex guide for dummies ] It is also important not to be offended, embarrassed or put off if you do something that she doesn’t like or even something that hurts her. It is OK; we are all different and experience sensations differently. For some people touching certain spots can actually bring up negative emotions. Others may have injuries or spots that are sensitive (not in a good way.) This is all part of exploring one another, if she lets you know she doesn’t like something feel honoured that she cares enough about you and your sexual relationship to let you know.
[ sex guide for dummies ] Finally it is important to take the pressure off. Many men suffer from some kind of ‘performance anxiety’ and I think that word is totally wrong. Unless you are making a porn film sex is not a ‘performance,’ sex is a mutual experience between two (or more) people. Sex is not about perfection or performing it is about exploring, connecting, enjoying, and being in the moment with your partner. If you don’t cum, she doesn’t cum or you don’t get an erection that is OK. What is important is that you enjoy the experience, relax, learn more about one another and get closer to each other.
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