SWINGING TIPS (for men): Do you fantasise about being intimate with two girls at once? Do you ever imagine two women having sex together? Maybe you dream of watching your partner having sex with someone else and then joining in to make a threesome?
If you fancy making these kinds of fantasies a reality, you must ask yourself if you want those fantasies enough to risk jeopardising your current relationship. Relationships more secure than yours have ended in disaster after pursuing carnal experiments. As well as being a significant lifestyle change, it will alter your existing relationship forever. To take a leap into the weird and wonderful world of swingers is definitively not a decision you can make over a light lunch.
Akin to losing your virginity, once it’s given, it’s gone. Swinging is an option that can result in unforeseeable and unexpected consequences and benefits. Being a swinger does not guarantee your current relationship will survive even though your primary partner consents to going along with it: Swinging can devastate your relationship or boost it. Think of swinging as the extreme where there’s no in-between. You can ruin and wipe out your happy relationship or you can find the lifestyle you’ve been searching for. The choice, as always, is with you and your love. If you choose to go with it, here are some tips for leading a successful swinging lifestyle.
Swinging tips (for men):
First of all and most importantly, know why you want to try swinging
When any choice can have significant negative ramifications, it is prudent to question what your motivations are. People get into swinging for an assortment of different reasons. Maybe you’re weary of having the same, humdrum sex life that comes with a long-term, monogamous relationship.
Maybe your woman wants to discover her feminine side or you both want to get to know your sexual selves by experimenting with others. Maybe you both have lusty desires to see your partner with another woman or man, acting out hidden fantasies and kinks.
Want to explore a particular BDSM fantasy you have? Do you want to try a little domination or role-playing? Adding other people to the mix brings with it diverse experiences. It is immensely important to understand your wishes, wants and hopes for this lifestyle change. It would be the height of recklessness and a total contempt of your partner if you both did not carefully examine why you want to do this.
Swinging tips: Even the strongest relationships don’t always survive a swinging lifestyle. The truth is that neither of you can foresee how you’ll feel after seeing or knowing that your loved one was with another person. You can destroy yourself and your love with niggling insecurities that damage your relationship and delivers unequalled emotional pain. You cannot know how each of you will feel, think or wonder after you do this, so please think about this carefully and identify your reasons for wanting to try swinging.
Now that you’ve gone through the pros and cons and made your list of reasons for making this important lifestyle change, you’re ready to begin swinging. But what do you do now?
We’re blessed that we live in a digital world. The internet has developed to such proportions that, at any given time, we can find whatever we’re looking for whenever we want it. A quick Google search for swinging will provide you with more swinging and fetish sites than there are pebbles on the beach.
From clubs to how-to articles, to locations of parties and people in the swinging community, you will find everything you need to know online that will enable you to make contact with lots of like-minded individuals who share your kink and can introduce you to things you haven’t even considered.
You can join an online community, post personal ads, respond to many others seeking the same, and learn everything you want to know by using the internet. You’ll find that there are many different types of swingers and swinging. There are bi-curious females, heterosexual couples, gay or lesbian couples, and fetishists. Clubs are nearly everywhere, however, good manners are key.
This standard applies to the digital community as well as your geographical one: Treat others with respect and accept “No” graciously. You can and will ruin your reputation if you walk into a club expecting to have consensual sex with whomever you please. Swingers and fetishist clubs are much the same as any other club, albeit with more extreme sexual practices. It still requires that its patrons operate under the yes/no policy. When a man or woman says “No,” back off. There are no ifs or buts about it. Don’t ask why they declined, just move on.
Swinging tips: Think of the most extreme party you’ve ever attended: did you seen women chained to walls, naked people behind ever door, people simply having sex on the floor right in front of you, orgies on the table, people chatting while intimately touching others, people in sexy costumes or role-playing various kinds of sex scenarios, and moans and groans of pleasure coming from lots of different people all ‘getting on with it’? All of this is characteristic of the scene if you decide to become a swinger.
You will need to bear in mind that rules can vary from party to party and from club to club. You should make a point of confirming the rules prior to attending. House parties are usually less formal and more wanton and self-indulgent. They abide by the rules of the person who is throwing the event, so you need to know the boundaries of the party you’re attending. Swingers or fetish club will tend to have more rigorous rules to protect everyone involved.
Swinging tips: Depending on your preferences, you are likely to find house parties more intimate; being a smaller space, but a club may offer facilities a house party doesn’t. With more money being made at clubs, things like security, cleanliness, and safety may be more in evidence. For example, there might be a washer and dryer to clean the towels used, rather than a dubious house party which might just have towels randomly lying around.
Swinging tips: House parties and clubs usually have separate spaces where fully naked people can engage in sex acts, and areas where semi-dressed or costumed people roam about. They are also likely to have a space designed for open orgies where any attendee of the event can partake in a group session of unadulterated sex, as well as some catering specifically for those into the fetishist BDSM side of stranger sex.
When attending an event, you should find out which spaces are best for those wanting to fondle and squeeze, and which space or room is for those wanting to engage in more explicit or group sex.
Etiquette tip: Never touch, take or taste without that person’s (and their partner’s) permission.
Swinging tips: The decision to become a swinger is black and white; there’s no grey area when it comes to choosing a swinging lifestyle. If you and your partner decide to swing, you better have great communication skills and natural sincerity with each other. Without both of these elements, your incursion into sexual journeying will likely end in depressing catastrophe.
Swinging is not for any relationship that has even a seed of insecurity, doubt or distrust. This type of sexual freedom only exists within the narrow confines of a truly trusting relationship. There is no in-between. Good luck in whatever you decide, and make your choice with eyes wide open because you never know how things will turn out until after it all happens.
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