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Female domination – in the context of this article means a woman who is a FemDom i.e. a woman who dominates men and or other women in a sexual way.

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Female domination is extensively used as part of sexual game play where the woman (FemDom) exercises her complete control over the submissive (male or female) at all times.

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For beginners or those not familiar with the term FemDom or female domination: Female Domination is an erotic experience categorised by an exchange of power in which She (the FemDom) claims authority and dominance over the submissive male or female; it is always consensual by agreement which differs considerably from more blatantly typical heterosexual sexual practices where the male is held to be effectively the dominant predator.

Submissive fantasies have been wrongly characterised as being the real meaning of Femdom; they have fed the porn industry as a for profit phenomenon. Submissive fantasies are not what arouse the FemDom. Female domination porn represents the D/s dynamic to the same degree that hetero porn represents the dynamic of loving in conformist relationships; it doesn't.

In the Femdom's world the submissive may be stimulated first and foremost by their sexual fantasies, often of a masochistic nature, to the point that these needs drive them to influence the FemDom into taking the upper hand for his pleasure alone. This is wrong in the world of FemDom.

To all intents and purposes, a Femdom association should be both hypothetically and in reality based exclusively on Her needs, pleasures, desires and whims. Femdom as a lifestyle is built on a loving, but firm Female authority, admiration and loyalty and unselfish service from Her partner and not on the submissive's sexual fantasies.

A true submissive in a genuine Femdom association will continuously bear in mind that Femdom is about pleasing the Mistress first and foremost to the very best of their abilities, making Her sexual needs more significant than their own, and not offending Her by making their submission all about what they want.

A Femdom relationship is alternative: the FemDom calls the shots and runs the show. The submissive is at her beck and call in every respect. The FemDom has trained the submissive in all the most essential ways to bring Her the most achievable level of satisfaction, and when the FemDom feels so disposed, She may reward Her submissive by reminding them of how incompetent and unacceptable they are as a human being.

KIRK, MANCHESTER, SAYS
I've felt like a submissive for a number of years now, but I've by no means managed to establish a good opening to explore that side of my sexuality. I was in a relationship for about five years with a charming lady. However, she was actually put off by any desire concerning my submissive awakening and was only interested in vanilla sex. Now I'm trying to find a way to move beyond that. I've had a couple of brief sexual encounters that incorporate some aspects of domination over me, but what I'm really seeking is a relationship through which I can truly submit myself to a strict Mistress who I can totally trust. Kirk, Manchester

FemDom commonly, but not completely or entirely, can involve:
1. Humiliation (public or otherwise) of the submissive/the FemDom's slave;

2. Penetration of the submissive's anus, mouth, or vagina with a strap-on or other sex toys by the FemDom;

3. Bondage or restraint of the submissive with rope, bondage tape, handcuffs, chastity belt or some other form of human restraint which is designed for, or adapted to, the purpose of immobilising and making vulnerable the submissive; and

4. Water Sports which involve the FemDom peeing on the submissive and/or making the submissive drink her or the submissive's own piss.

The FemDom, the dominate one (i.e. Madame, Mistress, Domina, Dominatrix, Goddess) have complete control over the slave, such as:

- Whipping and or spanking;
- 'Riding' the submissive;
- Putting and collar and leash on the submissive;
- Facesitting: the act of sitting on the submissive's face;
- Humiliating the submissive in public or otherwise;
- Bondage: Restraining the submissive with rope etc.;
- Blindfolding or ball-gagging the submissive;
- Penetrating the submissive with a strap-on etc.;
- Making the submissive lick the FemDom's boot or heel;
- Foot worship;
- Making the submissive x-dress or act like an animal etc.;
- Use the submissive for sexual favours.

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ANON, LINCOLNSHIRE, SAYS
I engage in frequent self-torture with nipple clamps and other assorted nipple pain experiments, but I very much hold a strong desire to pleasure someone else. Preferably, I would love to be involved in a real-life D/s connection that involves cock worship, restraint, degradation, consent play and of course nipple pain. I can't put across enough just how much I would love this and how desperately I want it to feel like something I'm being subjected to, rather than something I'm doing to myself. However, I would need to be sure that the dedication and loyalty aspect of this sort of association is something which I'm able to commit to before pursuing things further. Anonymous, Lincolnshire

MALCOLM, LONDON, SAYS
So, I'm here seeking Internet FemDom sessions with the potential for something regular and involving a variety of submissive scenarios. I would like to chat until I find a FemDom I can trust with my utter submission. I'm a closet submissive from London who works in the City. I would love to be the slave of a strict Mistress who would train me and discipline me in the aspects of good submissiveness. I would also love to be subjected to pain for your pleasure and to be punished and degraded as you may feel necessary for your satisfaction. Malcolm, City of London

JOHN, MIDLANDS, SAYS
I'm a bit terrified to do this, so I'm seeking a very affable FemDom (if there is such a thing!) who is willing to put up with a brand new sub. I hold down a high-powered job in the Midlands which requires me to work long and sometimes very irregular hours. This means that although I'm willing to put a lot of work into the relationship and prioritise it over many things, I may sometimes have work obligations I must put first. The bright side is that this means I'm pretty smart and willing to put up with a lot of frustration in my day-to-day life! I'm hesitant to reveal my location (discretion is a must for me), since it might allow someone I know to recognise me. But I'm more than happy to share that and any pictures once we start messaging. Thank you for reading, and I'm looking forward to pleasing any Mistress here who thinks me worthy. John (not real name), Midlands

MISTRESS JUANA (LONDON UK) SAYS
Let's get right to it shall we. We both know why you're here :). I'm a strict Mistress looking for a submissive male weaklings and sissies. My requirements are, you must be obedient, comfortable with who you are and what you want, respectful and above all else willing to serve ME as My slave. Just to be clear, I don't want an all consuming D/s IRL relationship. Let's keep this here and discreet.

ME: I love spanking, whipping, strap-ons, orgasm control, cum denial, CBT, restraint, bondage and tie and tease. There's more and none of these are absolutes but I think this is enough to get started. BTW Absolutely no blood play, scat or pet play.

A little more about me: I'm a very leggy 5'8” (without heels), 26 and weigh around 124lbs. You can go to my page by clicking te link below. Mistress Juana, 26, London (UK)

NASAAR, LEICESTER, SAYS
This is going to be a bit unusual... unlike most others here I'm not necessarily looking for full-on D/s sessions because I'm primarily a masochist, rather than a submissive. I'm looking for a girl who wants an emotional punch bag. I want to be an outlet for all of your anger, sadness and frustration.

If you need to feel in control, or want someone to humiliate for any reason, I want to be that person. Ideally we could also be 'friends' and have some normal conversations, ask about each other's day etc. Only, whenever you need it, I'll also be there as your release. I'm not opposed to adding a sexual aspect to our sessions if that's what you want. Nasaar, Leicester

TOM, NORTH LONDON, SAYS
I'm looking for a very dominant woman to be my Mistress and key holder for my chastity device. I've had one for a little while, but there's always temptation when you hold the key, so I need someone to take over! Ideally, I'd see this happening through sessions which have the occasional teasing and denial scenarios incorporated into them.

It could also be mixed with oral servitude on my end... imagine having a horny play-thing to go down on you whenever you have the urge. I can even be on call for your pleasure!

I'm thinking of you Miss Tanya? I'll message you again tonight at about 9ish if that's OK and if you're interested just shoot me back a quick message and we can begin a conversation from there. Looking forward to it. x Tom, North London

FRASER, GLASGOW, SAYS
Thanks girls for being into weird, and disgusting sex acts and shit like that and for being open to sharing an emotional connections with us. I can promise you won't get bored of me, our sessions will be exciting and thrilled, definitely never boring.

OK, so who am I looking for?
"Well obviously a FemDom with a fantastic personality! lol Not too serious and someone who likes a good laugh, is intelligent, experienced in the art of domination and has a creative mind!

In addition to all of that, a girl that is mature, hyper-sexual, strict and controlling. I'm willing to try things, do things and I've not got a close minded! I'm positive about the prospect of the experience, and nothing is closed off from my side.

Oh yeah, and I'm not fearful about exploring the fringe of what this D/s lifestyle is all about. Fraser, (Glasgow) Scotland

ZARA, LONDON, SAYS
I'm a Dominant female 52 years old. I've been part of the lifestyle on and off since I was 30. I've had some incredible people in my life because of the lifestyle, just beautiful, gifted, big-hearted people. People I would of never have met outside of the lifestyle, and for that I am really thankful. My focus tends to be more sexual and control oriented. I do enjoy some pain play, but mostly this is about sex, and control. I like exploring fringe kinks and fascinated by how far I can push MY slave. Ms Zara, 52, London (UK). Click to go to my page.

MS KAY, LONDON, SAYS
I'm Kay, 53, an experienced Mistress with much to offer in relation to D/s role play fantasy fulfilment. Firstly I'm not overbearing, I don't have anything to prove to you, I know that you give me power over you, I don't take it from you.

I have no difficulty asserting control over you, and pushing you to your limit. In addition to that I also welcome approaches from women, not in a gross 'I want you to tongue fuck my arsehole way', but in a subtle controlling way.

I can bring order, and focus to your life. Do you want to experience scenarios you've never thought of? I will do that for you. Do you want to explore more dangerous, or fringe experiences and still be safe? I can do that for you.

I can be that rock in your life that you can lean on for support. I will listen, and genuinely care about you, and what is important to you. There are lots of dominant women here for you to choose from, so I have no illusions that actually trying to find your perfect FemDom might take a few attempts!

But I'm willing to try, and willing to put myself out there. Will you take a chance and open yourself to me, and possibly share what could be the most amazing experience in your life with me? I hope you will, I truly do. Ms Kay, 53, London (Dagenham). Click to my page.

BAZ, WOLVERHAMPTON, SAYS
My last girlfriend was as vanilla as they come, which was fine, but I'm craving something a little more this time. I'm seeking a girl that's into the kinkier side of sex. I prefer to be submissive to a dominant woman, so what I'm after here are role play scenarios where I am the sub, including small cock humiliation, degradation, reward and punishment and whatever else we might conjure up!

I also enjoy pain along with pleasure. Passionate, intense and ultra sexed-up, that's me. I crave a strong minded woman to put me in my place, yet a woman who knows Her slave is a gift to be treasured!

I'm seeking a FemDom with an intelligent and creative mind – possibly a lifestyle Mistress with a few years experience. The finer details can wait until we get into chat. Baz, Wolverhampton

CARRIE SAYS, RICHMOND-UPON-THAMES, SAYS
You will be my toy: To use as I like and in whatever ways I see fit. You will be used, at the time and place that I want to use you. And I will use you by whatever means I wish to (limits being respected, of course) it's up to my discretion, because I own you. And just like any possession I own, your sole purpose is to be a worthy possession.

You will give yourself up for my happiness and my satisfaction and make yourself available for me to play with whenever the mood takes me.

FYI I'm into bondage, orgasm control, humiliation, spanking, daily control, and a wide amount of everything else throughout the BDSM spectrum. Miss Carrie, Richmond-upon-Thames. My page.

Taking charge, especially in bedroom scenarios, where men tend to b the initiators can be incredibly sexy. Not just because it shows t woman knows the power of her sex, but also because her assertive attitude exudes self-confidence and confidence is sexy.

However a woman who is too dominating and narcissistic, and cares only about herself, is likely to be considered as appealing as the man who rolls over straight after shooting his load.

INTERVIEW

Q: How do you like your subs (slaves) to address you?
Mistress, Madam, Nurse, or Doctor depending on the situation.

Q: Do you live the lifestyle 24/7?
No. I prefer to be like most of my worshipers and break out into my BDSM fun and games as it rejuvenates me so that I can enjoy my everyday life to the full.

Q: Do you dominate just men?
No, I love to play with women too.

Q: What makes a good FemDom?
Listening first to what the submissive says before instigating any role play and learning what makes them tick. After that, control should be balanced with empathy, and awareness to detail and heightened consideration.

Q: What is your favourite kink?
Stockings principally fully fashioned stockings. I've got lots of them!

Q: Why are people drawn to BDSM?
Escapism, without a doubt. I believe that giving up control and the adrenalin rush from mental and or physical torment is similar to what you feel by queuing up in anticipation to board a scary side at a theme park. Yes you are scared but you love the buzz and thrill. It makes you feel alive and then you want to queue up and do it again until you are exhausted and satisfied.

Q: What are the biggest misconceptions about being a FemDom?
That you are an escort or prostitute. That all you do is put on a pair of boots and whip people.

Q: Do you specialise in a particular fetish?
I love role-play. I love light medical role-play. I am not a 'loud' Mistress. I prefer to dominate with humour and poise.

Q: What would you say makes you a dominant woman?

I consider the key characteristic that makes Me a Dominant Female is My Alpha Female nature. Male colleagues of mine were always terrified of Me and I have constantly naturally taken the position of leader within groups of people. I am also a free spirit and cannot stand being under someone else. My independence would also unquestionably be a feature of My qualities that marks Me out as a Dominant Female. I do not follow trends or meld into group mentality. I do things My way.

Q: Do you enjoy dominating male and female subs in the same way?

I practice the Domination of men and women in very different ways. I see men rather as toys, to be played with and enjoyed. I do, of course, extend associations with them and enjoy taking them to a new place, and help them push their boundaries. However, I always, in the back of My mind, have this little devil, smiling and giggling and saying 'Would you ever have thought that a woman could do this to you? Look at what happens when you think with your penis, you silly boy!' and that is an enormous part of the kick that I get from My play with male subs.

With female subs, there is a sort of contemplative state at play. The female sisterhood state of mind kicks in and I Myself start to see them as Goddesses in their own right. I go into a strange place. I see their physical beauty and the weakness of their body, the softness of their skin.

There are without doubt different dynamics depending on the sex of the sub. But then again, there are different dynamics with every sub and the rules that I have stated should not be considered universal.

I have a few male subs with whom I have highly erotic encounters where the whole session progresses through this dream like state, and I have certain female subs who want nothing more than to be dishonoured and embarrassed.

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Is there anything hotter than a woman clad in PVC or a corset, with a flogger or paddle in her hand as she stands over Her bound submissive partner? Probably not!

One component that every FemDom session absolutely requires is some teasing. Whether the sub is bound or been instructed not to touch, make a noise or get hard. The ultimate tease must be a cum denial or a ruined orgasm. It will drive any male sub crazy!

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