Oral intercourse, often referred to as oral sex, a blowjob, giving head or 'going down' means using your mouth and tongue to arouse and excite your partner's genitals.
Whether oral sex appeals to you or not, there is no doubt that it can be a great way to realise new sexual pleasures with your partner without engaging in vaginal sex.
FELLATIO - GIVING A GUY A BLOWJOB
When a man gets an erection he's aroused and ready for oral sex. But it's always a good plan to use your hands to stroke and feel his cock first, and slowly work towards giving him the full-on oral sex experience.
Here's the question:
How deep do you let his cock enter your mouth? When you're uncertain about this, use your thumb and forefinger to make a ring around his cock to stop him going too deep.
It's always a good idea to let his cock slip down your throat gradually, until you arrive at the point where it feels it's deep enough.
Many man find receiving a blowjob exceedingly sensitive, so they'll tend to start gently and then - inch by inch - work up to going deeper and deeper and quicker and quicker as they get more and more into it.
BTW. When you make a decision to give a man oral sex, it doesn't necessarily imply that you're willing to let him cum in your mouth.
For those who feel uncomfortable about swallowing a man's cum juice, or those who simply can't get on with the taste of a man's semen, just get him to wear a condom. Any potential issue about whether you will swallow or not will be resolved.
GIVING A WOMAN ORAL SEX
OK, you've decided to take the 'plunge' and go muff diving. Well before you get stuck in, it's a smart idea to kick things off with some kissing, touching and caressing before going down on her and putting your mouth and tongue to work.</>
Our advice would be to take your time and explore her upper thighs and the area around her pussy before committing the act itself, this will help to get her nicely aroused and make her cunt delightfully wet and open for business.
BTW. The most sensitive part of a woman's pussy is her clit (clitoris), which has literally thousands of nerve endings. That said, the whole of a woman's pelvic area is extremely sensitive.
CUNNILINGUS - GETTING DOWN TO IT
FIRST: How do you locate a woman's clit? Gently part the outer lips of her pussy to reveal the vaginal cavity, the hooded clitoris is just above. Once you know where it is, begin softly, using relaxed tongue movements and work up to more rapid movements with a firmer, pointed tongue.
Where oral sex scores over vaginal sex
FACT 1: Women are far more likely to orgasm through oral sex than with vaginal intercourse. Why? With oral stimulation there's no partial clitoral contact or the odd sporadic fortuitous clit stimulation, as the man hits her clit with his pelvic bone. The focal point with oral sex is right there, where it needs to be and stays there until the woman cums.
FACT2: Both men and women know what they're supposed to be doing. No one is left puzzled by what each person needs to do next. There's a clear objective and a set of blueprints which tell you how to achieve your goal. Simply put, the woman lies there with her legs spread wide open, waiting to have the best orgasm of her life. And the man's mouth and tongue are supposed to give it to her.
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SEX GUIDE TO ORAL SEX
We recently asked members of the XXX Sex Contacts community for their top oral sex tips.
Here's what they had to say regarding making it even more amazing, whether you're on the giving or receiving end. Because when it comes to giving a blowjob, everybody should be thoroughly enjoying themselves, right?!
BTW and before we get right into it, there's almost certainly no list of sex tips where each item will appeal to every person. So take what you like and leave the rest. And remember consent is everything; please enjoy these sex tips maturely!
1. Get into a position that works for both
"When I'm giving a blowjob to a guy I'll sometimes ask him to sit on the edge of the bed (or whatever) because it's more comfortable for me, allows me to take his cock deeper down my throat and he gets the added visual of me kneeling in front of him. It also means I can look up while he has his hands in my hair, too."
2. Tell your partner what you like and ask them what they like too
"Talk to your partner! Ask them if they're enjoying what you're doing; ask them what they would like you to do. Have an open conversation and maintain that conversation right through the sexual experience. But essentially, don't do anything you aren't OK with. You should always feel comfortable enough with anyone you're having sex with to talk frankly about limits."
3. Try and make plenty of eye contact
"Making eye contact with your partner is important, as it can make a massive difference to an oral sex experience. Trust me on this!"
4. Giving a blowjob should be done enthusiastically and needs be fun
"I love giving a guy oral sex, and been told that it's my enthusiasm for giving oral that's the difference between giving a great blowjob and one that's just average or even rubbish (yes, apparently there is such a thing as a rubbish blowjob!). Just enjoy it for the pleasure you can provide, pay lots of attention to your partner's signals (audible, physical, whatever), and be fully invested in what you're doing. It shouldn't be a mission!”
5. In order to get around a penis-induced gag reflex, try fake yawning
"Open your throat by imagining a fake yawn, but curl your tongue to hug his cock. Practice it in a mirror. Since a throat contracts like a muscle you'll be able to see how it stretches wider."
6. Or you can try this clever hand trick. "Wrapping the fingers of your left hand around your left thumb decreases or eliminates the gag reflex. Crazy but it works!"
7. If you're going down on a woman's pussy, learn some breathing and jaw techniques
"The answer is to breathe in through your mouth and out through your nose. If you can learn circular breathing you can go down on a girl for ages without having to come up for air. It's in fact reverse circular breathing. And to help avoid your tongue cramping up, try keeping your jaw open and loose. Upward strokes of your tongue under the clitoral hood seem work incredibly well!"
8. Take time to locate her clitoris
"When giving a woman oral sex, push the skin above her clitoris (gently) toward her if she's lying down. Moving away that skin will expose her clit for ease of tongue access.
9. To give a great blowjob be sure to use buckets of spit
"You need lots of spit! Like accually spit on his cock. For whatever reason, guys seem to love that. And you could try licking your hand so that its super slippery when you need to give your lips or gag reflex a rest."
10. Flavoured lube (water-based) is good when you need extra moisture
"Flavoured lube is the best thing I've ever tried."
11. Guys, get yourself a nice rhythm going
"I can't speak for other women here, but I find getting a nice rhythm going trumps the alternative every time. You don't require any clever tricks or anything; just get a steady rhythmic motion going on her clit and she's virtually guaranteed to orgasm on cue. Granted, it's not going to happen in 60 seconds, but if you have the tongue strength and stay down there for a bit doing the same thing, then BINGO!"
12. 'Pretend' to be deep-throating his penis
"OK girls, here's a little trick for you to fake deep throating. Simply place your tongue on the roof of your mouth, as if it were standing up, and chances are he'll think his prick is hitting the back of your throat (it all feels the same in there). If you can pull this off, then he'll think his dick is deeper down your throat than it actually is and he's likely to be well impressed with your oral technique! Remember that you heard it here first! lol.
13. Want to deep-throating? Go slowly and carefully
"Slow and steady wins the races, is where you slowly deep throat him, and as you bring your head up, grip his cock tighter between your lips, while massaging his balls. Every so often lick and nibble his balls too. Trust me, he'll love it and hopefully you will too!"
14. Don't neglect the tip of his cock
"The key to a great blowjob is to continually go back and give the tip of his penis plenty of attention, not forgetting the underside of the head of his cock either. Keep running your tongue around the head of his dick. It will drive him crazy."
15. Always begin slowly
"Anticipation is a great contributor to the overall oral sex experience. Don't just jump straight into things. Foreplay is a vital ingredient when it comes to oral intercourse. If you're heading south, try kissing behind her knees, down her thighs, around her tummy and just above her pubic area. It heightens the sensations and builds sexual tension, plus it shows you love her whole body, not just her crack."
16. Make a 'beckoning' motion with your finger
"When you're going down on a woman, finger her at the same time. Suck the clitoris and curve your fingers up inside her so you hit her G-spot."
17. Get her legs in on the action
"When I receive oral, I love it when a guy locks his arms around my legs, like I can't escape the pleasure."
18. Make good use of your hands, too
"A man once held my wrists as he was going down on me and it was amazing. Two great things happened: He was able to pull my pussy tighter to his face, and it kept me from thinking about moving or doing anything distracting with my hands. I had multiple orgasms on that occasion. He knew what he was doing!"
19. Use your tongue and mouth to create suction on the tip of his penis
20. Make pleasurable noises while you're down there
"There's a reason porn stars make moaning noises when they give head. When you're enjoying oral sex you should convey the fact to your partner by making noises which will tell them that you're really into it."
21. Be sure that his balls are included
"It's all about his balls. You must not ignore them — they're valued and satisfying to your partner! Lightly lick them, suck them gently, run your fingers through them. Seriously, anything works! Treat them just as you would his cock and it'll make things so invigorating for both of you."
22. When it feels fantastic, be sure to let them know
"Whether you're giving or receiving head, your partner should tell you what they like. There's nothing sexier than a guy or girl telling you that you're doing a great job, whether by moaning, pulling hair, dirty talk, or keeping your head on a particular spot for an extended amount of time."
23. When it's working, don't stop
"If she says she's close, don't stop what you're doing. Changing up technique in the middle of an orgasm can stop the whole thing dead."
24. Oral sex is best with the person receiving head is on top
"I lie down on the bed with my head slightly propped up and put my knees up, and the man essentially kneels above my breasts. This position gives good control over the depth and speed of a man's cock, and means either of partner can play with the clit, using their fingers or a vibrator."
25. Use ice, if your partner is cool with that
"I had a glass of ice put off to the side; my partner at the time didn't think anything of it. As I was about to give him a blowjob (without him noticing), I popped a small ice cube into my mouth. He didn't expect it whatsoever, which was my favourite part. He loved it, and throughout our relationship, I did that every now and then to spice up the foreplay."
26. Try something bubbly in your mouth (before his cock!)
"A mouth full of champagne or any fizzy wine while giving oral sex to a man adds a great twist to the proceedings. Just remember to breathe through your nose!"
27. Massage between his balls and ass, yes really
"It's all about the perineum — that's the area between the balls and the anus on a guy. While you are going down on him, make a fist with one of your free hands and then use the flat part of your fist to gently, but firmly, massage that area in a rolling motion. When you get it right, you'll hit his sweet spot underneath on his prostate. That, coupled with the simultaneous oral action, and he'll be thanking you the rest of the night!"
28. Simultaneous sucking and licking
"What works with women is when you wrap your arms around her thighs and get your face as close as you can and open your mouth around her clitoris and just move your tongue back and forth while sucking it at the same time. Works like a charm!"
29. The underside of your tongue is super-soft
"Stick the tip of your man's cock UNDERNEATH your tongue. I know it sounds strange, but follow me: The really soft skin under your tongue apparently feels very similar to a woman's pussy. With the tip under your tongue, you can massage the whole tip with it. Just be careful with your teeth!"
30. Try different things with your tongue
"Try alternating between using the tip and flat surface of your tongue on her clit and then actually stick your tongue inside her pussy. It'll make you (and her) believe in god."
31. Use your hands too
"Just because it's called oral sex doesn't mean you only have to use your mouth. Be sure to use your hands as well, and pay attention to the movements that give you the best reactions. Not everyone is sensitive in exactly the same areas, and some may be too sensitive in certain areas."
32. Using hand rhythm and your mouth
"When it comes to eating pussy, my biggest tip is being able to keep to different rhythms, one with your mouth and the other with your hands and fingers, simultaneously. Apparently people struggle with this more than you'd think. It's almost like a rubbing your belly and tapping your head kind of thing."
33. Add teeth GENTLY into the mix
"My man is circumcised, so not sure how it would work for intact men. But I interchange mainly between (lightly!) scraping my teeth the length of his shaft and pulsating my tongue against the base of his dick's head. It drives him utterly wild — he says it makes him orgasm so hard he sees stars!"
34. You should always have an exit strategy
"Know how and where he wants to cum in advance, and don't stop when he's coming. Ramp it down after he comes, nuzzle, lick, nibble, etc., as he goes soft."
35. Think about giving and receiving great oral
"When I'm giving oral, I have as much fun with it as I can. This is a powerful position to be in, and I look at it as a privilege to induce such pleasure. If I'm receiving, I focus very much on enjoying myself and being present in the moment and letting go of my perfectionist lifestyle. Whilst giving someone oral sex is a power trip, receiving is vulnerable and requires trust."
36. Remember genitals are awesome
"I had to let go of some vagina stigma too, assuming unless I was shower fresh, he wouldn't want to. But my husband likes to do it even when I come home from the gym. Letting that go was probably the most important thing I personally did to ensure I always enjoy it. We've been together forever, and when people ask me what our secret is, I say, 'We put each other's genitals in our mouths, a lot.'"
Responses have been edited for length and clarity.
WHAT 10 WOMEN HERE HAD TO SAY... about being on the receiving end of oral sex:
ANDI (25) form EASTBOURNE SAYS:
The attention for a change is all on me. I don't have to be bothered whether he's about to cum or if I should be doing more to pleasure him. All I have to focus on is... well, anything I want to focus on. I'm the one receiving all the attention.
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LYNN (66) from MACCLESFIELD SAYS:
There's no multitasking for me to do. I don't have to cup his balls in one hand while negotiating his shaft in a clockwise direction with the other. I'm doing one thing, and that's nothing.
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ISLA (24) from COVENTRY SAYS:
I literally don't have to move unless I want to. It's like taking a nap, except I'm awake and someone's got their tongue deep inside my fanny. Being on the receiving end of oral sex (for a change) is just ideal.
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KEEGAN (24) from LEEDS SAYS:
When a man loves nothing more that to get his mouth and tongue working on your pussy its magic. If a guy is worth a damn, he'll love going down on you. Watching a guy licking you out and hearing the noises he makes when he's doing it is one of the best things ever. Nothing compares. Nothing.
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DANY (23) from DUDLEY SAYS:
No woman will ever feel closer to a man than when his face is literally pushed tight up against her vag. Penetrative sex is up-close and personal, BUT a man's head on your vulva is another level of intimacy and it rules. It rules so completely guys.
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LIVVY (20) from SCOTLAND SAYS:
I think sex is actually better when I can let my mind wander. With penetrative sex I have to be super-focused like performing some kind of delicate procedure. But when I'm receiving oral sex I can just focus on the experience of it and let my mind go wherever.
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JENNY (37) from LONDON SAYS:
Cunnilingus never ends with a man cumming anywhere near your face. Like, it's not even a remote possibility so you can just let your guard fully down on that one. Especially with guys that are heavy cummers!
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KHLOE (24) from LONDON SAYS:
There's comparatively minimal cleanup in general. When you go down on a guy, there are towels, so many towels, but unless you're a big squirter (in which case I get it), you're both not going to have to take mega-showers afterward.
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OLGA (28) from REDDITCH
If you need a man to change what he's doing, you can just move his head. Which is way easier than trying to shift various parts of his body when he's on top of you. Which almost never ever works.
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ALICE (22) from LIVERPOOL SAYS:
I don't have to fruitlessly attempt to sync up our orgasms. Since I'm the one cumming, I'm going to cum first. No waiting, no pressure, just me. Some men are just very selfish. It has to be said.
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CHRIS, LONDON, SAYS
Oral sex is awesome. It's such an intense, personal, and pleasurable experience. Best part about being a lesbian ;) Hands down!
Chris, 27, London
FIONA, MIDLANDS, SAYS
My knickers were still on, but he simply slid them to the side and started tonguing my fanny, making a growling noise like a lion purring with delight while he devoured my helpless pussy.
Fiona, 31, Midlands
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